Friday, May 26, 2006

The 5 Questions before you think of the bling bling


As usual, the topic of "love" is a never ending discussion, even at the office; my colleague told me about an email she received.
The email is about the 5 essential questions that you should ask yourself before you consider purchasing/wearing that piece of rock.
Anyhow, i found them (the questions) thought provoking and incredibly honest... thought i'd share them with you. *drum roll*
  1. Do you both share the same goal in life?
  2. Do you feel "safe" to share all your thoughts with him/her?
  3. Is he/she a respectable person (in your eyes)?
  4. How does he/she treat other people?
  5. Do you intend to change this person after marriage?

No, i don't know if these questions are enough to validate that this guy/girl is marriage material. Good Luck.

12 comments:

Kar Leon Cheng said...

you dont HAVE to share the same goal in life do you? why would that matter?...(or am I being an insensitive male prick here...haha)

Anonymous said...

i think its should be more of whether this person shares your enthusiasm and has respect or not for your goals in life.

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fat girl said...

Gadget Master! What's the vaccum cleaner that you got.. you know.. the one you were raving about a few months ago..?? How much ar??

cheo said...

I think sharing the same goal here does not mean all the goals in your life have to be shared.
We all probably have several goals we want to achieve in our lives, but certainly what it is saying here, (i guess), is that you and your partner should have a mutual goal.
For example: to always respect and trust each other...., this alone is already quite a tough but worthy goal to upkeep.... heh. :-)

Anonymous said...

*nod nods.

Kar Leon Cheng said...

thank you for the fine closing statement, oprah! :P

"to always respect and trust each other" - is a condition to have a successful relationship, not a goal.

according to your logic, you could say that me and my partner (hypothetically ofcourse) do not respect each other yet but have that at least that as a mutual goal and still be ready for marriage, which would be absurd ofcourse

dr.phil

cheo said...

what an ant f*cker, stop picking on the minute details. goal, condition, potato, potatoe, tomato, tomatoe

okay, you're right. Remember, it was I who brought you to fame, dr.phil....

having a mutual goal is still important (in my opinion), so that the couple will know that they will be heading towards the same direction.

perhaps we can say, it is indeed a pre-requisite (respect & trust), but it could be goal to continously maintain it. It gives reassurance to either party that both (parties) are on the same page and meeting each other's expectations.

fat girl said...

hahahaha.. shouldn't these questions be answered as soon as/before you start dating?? I'm not sure about you guys.. but I'd choose to go out with someone only if they are the answers to the 5 questions. If you have to wait until the rock appears.. it may be too late.. if he's not the answer then what? break up and move on? you might be 50 by then.. hehehehhehehe.. mouldy and way past the expiration date.. hehehheheheheh.. but then again, what do I know? i'm just a silly girl in love.. *wink* will leave these deep thoughts to you male gender.. whose brains only work when blood is not flowing south..

QueenSLeen said...

whoa.

how ironic, how that one piece of rock means so much...

but be it condition/goal - as long as it is met...

respect and trust will sure bring a couple a long way ahead i guess... with obstacles here and there that should be overcomed together.

wahaha. well that's what i think...

:)

Kar Leon Cheng said...

I agree (how can I not agree?)

however, going back to the 5 points of the original article, trust is already covered in point 2 ("Do you feel "safe" to share all your thoughts with him/her"), and respect is already covered in point 3 ("Is he/she a respectable person in your eyes").

Therefor, I revert back to my opening statement, which is that point 1 is obsolete.

Dr. Phil

cheo said...

dr.phil...

Q1 is about sharing the same goal, not about trust and respect. Trust and Respect was an example I used which you respectfully corrected that it should already be a condition to a happy relationship, and not a goal.

But before we get diverted, let's come back to base....

These questions speak to different people differently.

For some, these questions would already have been answered quite naturally by a couple who are already in a happy & healthy relationship.

For the others, who are not too sure, or whom are finding difficulty, or have this nagging feeling that something is not right, perhaps these questions would offer guidance, as a check, "hey, am i doing the right thing?"

Else, why do some couples stay married, and then realise later that they married for the wrong reasons? Perhaps, they never had this self-reflection that should've been done since the beginning? Also, some fall out easier, some take more time to muster the strength....

so, to those who are confused, think about it. And to those who are very happy in their relationship, do continue already with what you are doing.

Anonymous said...

bwah.....y make it all so complicated? As if life in itself is not complicated enough. Just marry the one u want to spend the rest of ur life with la! Basically, someone u wanna grow old WITH. Done deal! =P